Update: 'How I dealt with a one-sided friendship': Woman plans birthday revenge so her friend will reply to her text messages

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    Clothing - 'Of course they go all friendly... as if we're besties. After 2 months of radio silence, and as if nothing happened.'
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    Font - CO r/pettyrevenge. Posted by u/peachbunx How I dealt with a one- sided friendship I won't lie, it feels unbelievably s to have people messaging you whenever you need help and after you help them, they just dip and ignore you till the next time they need help again.
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    Font - My friend recently asked me to buy her a special blender/food processor for their bday (it was ~150aud) because her old one broke (we're both uni students but she lives on a way tighter budget then me because she doesn't receive help from her parents).
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    Font - Of corse they go all friendly, hyped me up and whatever beforehand, as if we're besties. After 2 months of radio silence and as if nothing happened.
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    Font - I, for whatever reason decided, hey since we've been friends for so long and I'm in a good mood now why not?. I go to target, take a photo of the food processor and send it to my friend who sends back.
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    Human body - "OMG YESSSS that's the one! THANK YOU THANK YOUUUU" so I buy it.
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    Font - As I get on the bus I start reflecting. I'm scrolling through our message history together, massive blender around my arms, and I'm looking at the massive differences in the amount I type to her, versus how much effort she would put into her texts and contrasting that with the change in the amount she would type to me in the last few days. And I'd always be the one to initiate the conversation unless she needed something- it was as if she was just tolerating me.
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    Font - I quickly send her a message "will we hang out again after your bday" (her last message was 2 min ago) to test and see if she actually cared about me as a person rather than some gullible ATM machine and as I'm waiting, I get off the bus and walk home.
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    Font - When I placed the blender up onto my kitchen counter, I realised that the color of the blender actually fits my kitchen quite well. and I began contemplating purchasing another one for myself,
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    Font - I check my messages again and see that I've been invited to the birthday group chat (friend is still online) yet hasn't responded to me as if she just throws her phone across the pacific ocean after each message I send her.
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    Font - I began to realise the pattern in which she messaged me and that this "friendship" was taking an incredibly large toll on my mental. Why should I always be worried about whether or not I get a response as if I'm not good enough. I decide to leave the birthday group chat which was somehow noticed by my friend immediately since she messaged me asking why I did that (but not my previous message?XD) and I decided I no longer wanted to be friends with her.
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    Font - So I left her on read and went and made a banana ice cream milk shake (currently drinking while typing this up instead of studying rip), with the brand new blender she thought she was gonna get out of me
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    Font - Honestly I'd rather have someone straight up tell me they hate my guts, then string me along for years while pretending to be my friend when they need me.
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    Font - It was a long overdue lesson but now I've found myself with a nice new blender to make smoothies with so it wasn't all bad I suppose :D
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    Font - UPDATE: wow ! it's only been a few hours and tbh I wasn't expecting to have an update so soon for you all but what just happened was so hilarious my heart is still palpitating So 10min ago, after I left my friend on read for hours, she sent me a new message saying "wow ok I see how it is"
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    Font - I quickly check our messages and see that she is drafting up a response so before she could finish whatever long as essay she was writing i respond with a picture of the new blender next to my glass of the banana smoothie (as you all were suggesting) with one word "Yup!"
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    Font - and then promptly BLOCKED THE HECK OUT OF HER before she could say whatever colorful words she wanted to me. Thankfully we don't have many mutuals together so she can't go and bad mouth me, a complete stranger, to a bunch of people who probably won't care.
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    Font - And honestly to say that I was immensely satisfied with this conclusion would be an understatement.
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    Font - SheWho LovesToDraw +2 That wasn't a friend, that was a LEECH. Good on you for recognizing her for who and what she really was, AND for keeping that blender. Enjoy your victory smoothies!
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    Font - peachbunx OP +1. I think I'm gonna try adding milo powder to my next one :D And yea, I think a good strategy I've developed now is to flip the situation around and ask myself would the other person go through the same lengths for me. I don't even think she would've bought me a keychain for my birthday but maybe a card lol.
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    Font - No_King6736 Win, win on my books. Have a nice blender that matches your kitchen. And realized someone was using you and decided to cut her off your life. Once again win, win.
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    Font - According-Scholar-36. I gave up a friendship of 30 years because of this. Always one sided. I realized I had idolized this 30 year friendship only for its longevity. When I saw this "friend " one last time in 2015 I saw her in her truest form. Self centered, lazy, manipulative, and seemingly proud of how she lives without working by manipulating others. I was disgusted. I
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    Font - was supposed to stay and visit with her the entire weekend. But I was so embarrassed by her selfishness even out in public, I willingly chose to leave after the first night there. I've never regretted it since. This lesson for me was I realized that I have standards in character of others and I can't lower these standards... even if I lose the longevity of a one sided friendship.
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    Font - RJack151 +3 Glad you got rid of her. If she ever asks about the blender, tell her she got it. You sent the picture and figured that is all she wanted.

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